On a serious note, though.
Speaking realistically, in this day and age, getting married without some degree of financial stability can be very difficult, and it can seriously affect the marriage itself. I've seen people struggle and suffer because of this, so please don't take it lightly.
This is part of why the Prophet ﷺ said:
«يا معشر الشباب، من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج»
That being said, I don't think financial stability is the main thing preventing most people from getting married. I think it's often a lack of maturity and psychological readiness for the responsibilities that come with it.
For a man, marriage means that, before Allah, you'll be accountable not only for yourself but also for how you fulfilled your wife's rights and, potentially, your children's rights. If you're not ready to take those responsibilities seriously, reflect on them, and prepare yourself to fulfill them, perhaps you need more time before getting married.
Now, regarding finances, I think there's a lot of exaggeration, especially in the tech community. Many of us earn more than 95% of Ethiopians, yet we still convince ourselves that we can't afford to get married. At some point, we need to ask ourselves whether we're being genuinely responsible or simply allowing our fear of the dunya to dictate our decisions.
Allah says:
﴿وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ﴾
"Marry off the singles among you... If they are poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty."
I'm not saying you should be financially reckless or ignore your obligations. I'm saying that there's a difference between being financially responsible and being so afraid of poverty that you never take the step. We need to have tawakkul in Allah while making a genuine effort.
There's also a Hadith (or an athar, not sure) encouraging people to seek provision through marriage. And we know that no soul will die before receiving…
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